Do you think she knows?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714328)

Starting to actually think this is flame.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714350)

Author: UhOh

Ljl

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714694)

if you guys were going to do it, you would have done it by now. if you're not both committing to ending it today, why would tomorrow be different?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714611)

if you truly loved her you'd spare her from that. or you'd have already begun the separation process with your wife.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714632)

1) you will eventually get caught, realize how selfish you stupid you were being, and spend a significant amount of time and energy repairing your marriage, although a scar will always remain. this is the best case scenario where your wife takes you back after a huge betrayal, and you will regret it the rest of your life. this is the zurich outcome.

2) you will eventually get caught, stick with the subordinate chick, and blow up your marriage. eventually things will fade with the subordinate too. if you stick with the subordinate will eventually have the exact same thing you have with your wife now except child support and a kid who suffers all the consequences of children of divorce and has to live knowing his dad is a POS who abandoned his mother while she was pregnant with him. this is the second best scenario.

3) you blow up your marriage and things don't work out with the subordinate. now you're millhouse's dad trying to find a new partner on dating apps. except you've got the scarlet letter of "CHEATED ON HIS WIFE WHILE PREGNANT", which eliminates you from contention with all quality women. if you're lucky you will wind up with some chick way worse than your wife and secretly regret blowing up your marriage and reminiscing about the good old days.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714627)

i got caught but didn't back out - i went forward and proclaimed that i was in love and had to be with this other woman, etc. but then i got sober and realized that i was still in love with GARY (who has been continuing to be intimate with gunner) in addition to the other girl (things never "faded" with her). it was awful because i was still really in love with the other girl but i had to dump her because i knew i had to get up in GARY's guts again.

it was just a really weird situation and honestly when i look back on it, it seems like a fever dream. i'm honestly amazed that i was doing all that stuff.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714640)

things "faded" with trash pussy because she's BPD insane. you never fall out of love with BPD types, but you eventually realize that they're too unstable. your ankle monitor was a symbol of things fading with her.

you are fortunate that gary was so forgiving and you didn't have to beg and plead (too much i assume) to get her back. but this is a unique twist because you've allowed her to "get revenge" in perpetuity by letting me be her bull, which also satisfies your cuck fetish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714660)

if i hadn't thought i could get gary back i would have stayed with manhole puss.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714664)

by "fading" i don't mean falling out of love, i'm talking about the passionate new love phase of a relationship. i'm certain that manhole puss is a woman with flaws like all others (in addition to her gaping maw of a cunt).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714677)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49715030)

Also, I'm sure the married side chick who was sleeping with a married guy while his wife is pregnant has upstanding moral character. There's no risk whatsoever that she will turn out to be a selfish cunt once the infatuation wears off. There's also no chance that she will get bored with you and started fucking some other dude behind your back.

So, all in all this sounds like a fantastic idea. Nothing could possibly go wrong. You should absolutely 100% divorce your wife for this side chick.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49715172)

the other woman did wind up being really self-centered and selfish, which was something i grew to dislike about her. and she left behind her own 13 yo son in florida to come live with me. oh, and she also got knocked up when she was like 18 and she had a son who was like 20, and he was severely autistic and barely verbal. she'd abandoned him to his dad by the time he was like 5. at the time i thought this was all just fine, but WOMEN do not do any shit like this, and any woman who is willing to do it potentially has serious personality issues.

this is something you will not see through the fog of love, but you'll realize it later.

here is my advice to you, but i know you won't take it bc i wouldn't have: break things off with the subordinate at least for now. be straight with her: you have a young child and a wife, and at the same time you are in love with her. you need to sort this out. come clean to your wife. maybe you should move out of your house for a few months at least. be alone. go to therapy with your wife. revisit this in several months. you may be in a different headspace.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714649)

a person who cheats with a married guy with a pregnant wife/newborn kid is probably a selfish piece of shit. and the cheater is too. if OP leaves his wife and things don't work out with the subordinate, that's going to be a huge red flag when he starts dating again, especially since he has no excuse beyond his own selfishness and can't lie because he has a kid so he can't hide the truth from a new chick forever.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5841381&forum_id=2#49714896)